Stop once the other person has clearly refused; continuing to pester is a public security violation, not "sincerity"
- Moderate value
- Evidence A
- Keeps you free
- Free
- Takes minutes
- Long-term effort
In plain words
If the other person has clearly said no and you still send messages or wait for them, it has been a public security violation since January 2026. It can bring detention of up to 5 days (ๆ็) or a fine of up to 1,000 CNY. In more serious cases, detention of 5 to 10 days. The police can also order you to stay away from the person, and breaking that order brings another 5 to 10 days of detention.
- Cost
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Free, and it takes no time. The hard part is holding back: no more messages, no more waiting for the person.
- What you get
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The Public Security Administration Punishments Law (ๆฒปๅฎ็ฎก็ๅค็ฝๆณ), in effect since January 1, 2026, lists harassment and stalking as a separate item. The text reads "repeatedly sending obscene, insulting, threatening or similar messages, or using methods such as harassing, pestering or stalking to interfere with another person's normal life." This conduct brings detention of up to 5 days, or a fine of up to 1,000 CNY. In more serious cases, detention of 5 to 10 days, with a possible additional fine of up to 1,000 CNY. This item has one more layer: with the approval of the head of the public security organ, the person can be ordered to stay away from the victim for a set period. Breaking the no-contact order brings another 5 to 10 days of detention
- Notes
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No research supports "pursuing to the end will win them over," but detention and no-contact orders are in black and white. The record of this kind of violation is sealed and is not provided or made public to ordinary organizations and individuals, but the relevant organizations can look it up under national rules. The statute looks at whether you repeatedly harassed, pestered or stalked and interfered with the other person's normal life, not at what you think. Continuing after the other person has clearly refused is the situation most easily found to be interference; this sentence is the author's judgment
- Evidence grade
- A : Specific numbers from meta-analyses, large cohorts or randomized trials; for law and policy, the statute or official text.
- Sources
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- National People's Congress Standing Committee (2025 revision). Public Security Administration Punishments Law [in Chinese] (Article 50, paragraph 1, item 5, and paragraph 2; Article 136). https://www.spp.gov.cn/spp/fl/202506/t20250627_699863.shtml (republished by the Supreme People's Procuratorate)
Translated from the Chinese original. Original book, section 10, tip 2. Content may be out of date and rules differ by place. When you actually deal with an agency, a doctor or a court, follow what local officials, doctors and lawyers tell you. Disclaimer